She said that she did not bring her phone or purse. But it sounds more like he is unreliable to be honest. This whole thing is really bothering me.and I feel as though it is causing me to question his real commitment to me. I am going through a similar situation right now. She probably doesnt understand that there are clear men boundaries that this guy is stepping on just as if you read the previous comments, there are a different type of women boundaries . Maybe she is just one of those people who cant get everything they need from one relationship. I dont know what exactly there texting each other!il also say that we have a big age difference iam 21 and he is 34 but it hasnt been a problem we understand each other and everything is fine except this situation now. You can feel the love for each other as you read the words throughly. So I dont know what to do tell him to stop all contacts or let it be. For this year I hope your brothers andsisters will make you day unforgettable. I really wish you all the best hun, this is a difficult situation. Haha ha.I am not alone anymore which is really nice. As far is she is concerned, she is TOTALLY out of order she was a supervisor and I would have thought its a Human Resources situation. ! She does travel to the other parts of state which requires over nite stay which is not a problem. Over-sharing is not good she is crossing a line. Why Do Affairs Happen If You Arent Bitchy or Frigid. Im struggling with this at the moment. He says he felt so guilty for passing on her in favor of me that he responded to her text be kind and not rude I said its not kind, as you are stringing her along like as if theres hope for her and you. I have no romantic feelings for this friend and I am happily married to my husband. Well some of the texts he sends her are a little out of line. Sorry it took a while to reply. I really feel for you lovely, but I think that you deserve better, even if that is to be alone. Not just because of the cheating when I was vulnerable, but also because I found out hed kissed another woman when I was heavily pregnant with our daughter. Finally I went to log into Facebook and she didnt log out of hers and there were the messages from her Ex husband. He blocked her and told her he is choosing his marriage over their friendship but the message he sent to her seemed as if he was saying its because my wife wont let me see you and he ended it with maybe see you around WTF ? I dont think I can recover this relationship. You need to go and get some proper legal advice and work out what to do. xx. He pretends he doesnt care but his whole mood changes when I mention him and he pretends he doesnt know who he is or his name Ive even stop talking to him because I dont want the drama. Im afraid my advice is to explain that this is not negotiable this is a deal breaker. It was just a friendly conversation and that he hasnt been able to connect with others out there. He still doesnt understand the concept of moderation, but Im grateful hes spending time on a productive hobby and not coping via the attention/ stimulation of other women and alcohol. You will probably find that this will happen in other places as well where he makes a decision, knowing he can push his relationship with you more, and therefore putting other people first. Is so confused. Im sorry it has taken me a while to reply, you are always welcome to contact me directly on https://www.facebook.com/MummyWhisperer if you need any further assistance. He may not understand it is wrong, as there are slightly different code of ethics between women and men it is definitely crossing the line from a female perspective. It stopped for maybe 2 days and then I suspect it just got worse. Daily personal contact is definitely a no go! Yes, I know someone who has deleted messages and there wasnt anything dodgy going on, but she didnt want to upset them as she knew they wouldnt like it. when i cried on his shoulder 2 nights ago about feeling like a failure as a wife, he said nothing. Im sending you big brave hugs xx, Hi. I love this post! I confronted him. My problem is I do not think that she should be doing this with Male co workers especially when they are drinking. and i want to live with u to the Emotional immaturity. I would sit him down and say this friendship with her is concerning you and explain your fears. What do you not do because of him, or because you are in a relationship that you used to love doing? That he wanted us to enjoy our last week together and start making plans for the future. Is it OK to have friends of the opposite gender when married? Bc i never was suspicious b4. If he is talking to her like that, then he is also talking to others like it. Im beginning to feel like hes cheating or he has feelings for her. Ive also noticed that she texts him a lot when I am around. It is not OK that they said those things and he didnt stand up for you he should tell them that if they dont like you fine, but they are rude or nasty to you (basically bullying you), then they wont see him. He works with her indirectly, sees her about once a week at work. I do not speak to her yet I found out hes friends on Facebook with her which Im not on. Two years ago he came home and told me I was right about her but he did nothing wrong just that she showed her true colors but waouldnt tell me what she said. I waited 30 mins still no wife or call . He did not volunteer that the group ride turned into a ride for two he said something that made me question him and he said oh it ended up just the two of us because we didnt get there early enough to join the group. What should I do??? So definitely keep your eye on him as he has shown himself prone to this effect. Colleen Ballinger Had An Empire. Now, Fans Are Tearing It Down Am I the crazy one??? Our partner will either appreciate it and see it for the effort that it is, or they wont. However, even though she doesnt want to admit it, a lot of trust was lost and I will be suspicious and question anything I feel necessary. I would love some advice on my dilemma. Him being so angry, is either because he is guilty, or because of the way that it was put across to him which made him defensive. She just hasnt seen enough of life, and she is sounding immature and selfish (ouch, sorry). It has now been almost 11 months and weve occasionally speak on our relationship but at the same conversation and we make no progress. He sticks up for his friend absolutely and I wonder why I havent confronted the bitch. He and her family visited face to face 8 10 times during this time frame. 11) Arranging to meet in a different scenario: A friendship normally starts in a particular social setting, e.g. However, also ask that he helps when he is home, so that he can get an appreciation of what its like tell him you dont want him to feel like a stranger or unneeded in his own home, so its important he knows what to do. Another year has passed for you,sweetheart;Its time to cut the cake andcelebrate.And once again, my love, I start tothinkOf things about you I appreciate. The short version is this. Personally I would be very insecure about my man befiending a woman as a close friend-woman really bond with men that talk with them. I wish this stopped here. Hi Yuki, Is there someone in the community that you can talk to? I feel that even if there is nothing going onits wrong. He understands that he caused it now, but hardly how much it has affected me. I really think there is something wrong with him. Id chat with one of your friends who knows you both well, and isnt too biased in either direction and see what comes out of your cups of tea or a glass of wine. I cannot. Can I attempt to embrace it? I asked if it was her car at our house that one day (described the car), and he said yes, but she only stopped in for a minute to pick something up. Fast forward to present time, he met a girl through work and is CONSTANTLY messaging her. I dont want to say anything yet I want to be able to trust him to say hey, Im married and feel this is inappropriate I mean, weve been there and this might be the first situation hes come by this again. Weve had so many discussions/arguments about it. We are having issues before the move with trust as far as me, control and respect with him. Im all for having friendships of both sexes, because it helps to give us insights into the opposite sex, and because they will give us such a different viewpoint and approach to life. Everyone has the odd day dream as well thats OK window shopping as they say. Problem Corner: 15 Signs a friendship could be inappropriate He has just let slip how he knows her so well and how he spends his time having a brew and chatting everyday about anything and everything. However, due the fact that my fiance and her text often during the day for work (since she works remotely at another office), they constantly have meetings together, and every work event seemed to involve her, I was getting a little jealous. I have saw text messages where she was asking him if he was bringing her breakfast. Rachel is uncomfortable with Danny's unusually close relationship with his sister. I left immediately. xx. He is a Director at a hotel and works closely with his hotel owners assistant (she is the liaison between the owner who is out town and the companys management team). It doesnt help that he still doesnt believe that the one gal in particular has feelings for him when in a drunken stupor she ripped apart our our wedding details like it was going to be trash and flat out told me that she didnt think he was ready and that I forced him. It makes me uncomfortable mostly because he never opens up to me or communicates to me on a daily but feels that comfortable with a friend he hasnt seen in 20 years. Its crossing a line and she will struggle later on if they misbehave and I promise you that when staff recognise a weakness in a manager, they will use it! Inappropriate Friendships When Married: Should You Be Worried? He has bought the manipulative bitch Xmas presents birthday presents whilst forgetting its even our anniversary. Just explain to him that for women there is a lot more to texting than meets the eye. I really think that you need to find out properly shes going to keep lying to you otherwise. The would be MIL says dont ever quit texting T as she needs your humor. He got her through a rough time with her ex-bf whom he didnt think she should have dated. Before this Ive tried to arrange dates that we can all go out together and she always blows them off but consistently invites him to go out without me. What does she say? When Ross was mad that Ben played with a doll, so he spent the entire day trying to make him play with "manly" toys. Athol Kay describes it as pre-selection; i.e. Hi Marj, its difficult to be able to say, from such little information Im afraid. My husband is the most kindhearted person and is naive to this sort of behavior which I believe is simply because his brain does not operate like that. Then I found out he paid $80 for the lunch. Because he assured me that they did not talk often and it wasnt like that I set up a new boundaries asking theyre not be late conversations whether its text or by phone. He formerly was in an 18 month relationship with the Aunt (lets call her A) of his daughter in law. We have some issues and he has yet to understand they are all related to this. She even shares our maratal issueswith him. He came and picked me and our son up and had to work that am and went to bed. Yes, he is probably very addictive by nature (I think that we all are to a certain degree, but maybe we spread it out, so its not noticeable), so moderation is probably not something he will ever be able to do. Yes, there are women who are a pain in the neck and constantly checking thats not OK. Any suggestion to handle this situation? Im afraid that some guys are good sperm donors, some good dads, and some good partners.
